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About the author
Nancy de Heer is a writer, ghostwriter, and editor. She comes from an artistic family and used to work with her parents at the children's theater agency Bliksemproductions. She organized talent shows and coached children on stage. She also sang in the band that later became the boy band The Shorts.
In 2006, her first children's book, Schoolpijn (School Pain), was published. It is a book about bullying at school. That year, it became the basis for lectures on bullying at primary schools. In 2009, Nancy set up the Stem voor Dieren (Voice for Animals) foundation with the aim of raising awareness among young people about the need for better animal welfare.
Her children's book Valentijns Vreselijke Vakantie (Valentine's Terrible Holiday) was purchased by various sustainability organizations and presented in primary schools throughout the Netherlands. The project “How do I take care of my pet” was launched in several provinces.
This was followed by the book Konijn Flip neemt de benen (Flip the Rabbit Takes Off) about petting zoos.
Nancy was born and raised in the beautiful city of Leiden and has two sons with whom she has a close relationship. Her six grandchildren are the gems that make life so beautiful. She has been a vegetarian for thirty years and a die-hard vegan for several years. She will never give up the fight against animal suffering.
No Longer Mine
Nancy de Heer
Lisa falls in love with Tom. She is drawn to his charm and declarations of love. But as their relationship deepens, she finds herself entangled in a maze of contradictions in Tom’s character. In public, he is courteous, funny, and charming. In private, he argues about everything that affects their lives, determined to get his way.
Although Lisa doesn’t shy away from confrontation in the early stages of their relationship and often puts Tom in his place, her world gradually begins to shrink. Tom’s manipulations are so subtle that she ignores every sign of resistance, giving him more and more space to tighten his grip on her mental freedom. She also becomes entangled in her sincerity toward family and friends who idolize Tom.
But He Can Also Be So Sweet is the story of a woman fighting for the impossible: a relationship of equals with an emotionally unstable man who exhibits all the signs of narcissistic personality disorder. It tells of her struggle to find a way out of the harmful situation she and her children have become deeply embedded in. But taking the step to leave this suffocating marriage is so difficult that Lisa retreats into a world of self-deception and lies—toward herself and those around her.
When a psychologist, and later a doctor treating one of her children, begin to ask critical questions about her family life, she becomes aware of the chaos surrounding her—of the guilt she carries for dragging her children into the illusion that she could save the relationship with their father, that she could change him. She realizes that staying with him means sinking even deeper into a swamp of misunderstanding and pain. After fifteen years, she finally devises a plan to break free from this destructive bond.
This book is about how hard it is to break away from a toxic relationship. About the inner battle required to walk a path that initially seems impassable. It is about discovering the strength within yourself to choose freedom. A story that shows there is always a choice—and how much richness lies in following your heart.
